Comments on: Experiences with beloved deceased

By: Gretchen

Gretchen — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 01:25:01 +0000

Dear Jaylee,
I am so sorry that you are missing your Dad, and learning to grieve at such a young age. The important thing for you is to think the happiest memories of him that you can, especially when you are feeling bad within yourself. Ask your mind to remember the happy times, replacing the darker thought with a thought light filled about him. Let yourself grieve but also take time to remember your Dad whole, healthy and happy. Think of him in this way in the world of spirit.
As to dreams, many times we dream and it is a product of our own mind. But some of the dreams have a quality about them that is different. Some deceased tell me they don’t come to dreams until their death is processed somewhat by the living loved one, in other words, be patient, I have no doubt he will try and reach you. Some deceased are healed right away and make themselves known immediately. There is no judgement to either condition, people in the world of spirit are as different as we are here. Actually your Dad has not gone anywhere in time and space, he is still here and he is still in the present. But without his body he is invisible to us. He can communicate in energy ways, subtle ways and it is better to think EVERYTHING is a message from him then that nothing is, sometimes they will be messages. When you are in a peaceful space in your mind talk to him, tell him you miss him, but also count all the things you can think of about what he did with you – the good things, thank him for these things, they never tire of hearing how they have contributed to their loved one’s life, and how they are still loved.
Especially on your birthday take the time to be grateful that you knew him and that he can now help you from a vantage point that sees more than we do in physical. Most parents stay in a guiding relationship with loved ones. Don’t beat yourself up that you can’t hear his voice in your mind yet (maybe you can already) but this will come in time. You’ll be driving along not thinking about much at all and you may hear his voice in your head. If he tried to make you laugh in life he will still be trying to do that, for example.
Please don’t worry about how he is doing There is so much help over there- especially from loved ones that are already in spirit just waiting and happy to help. If your Dad was close to his grandmother or any other family member that is in the world of spirit you can be sure he has been contacted and shown the ropes of how to be there.
I suspect your heart really hurts now, but it will hurt less as time goes on, the pain will shift to something you accept and carry with you always, that missing of him and that you are living your life without the certain feedback of his physical presence, but HE IS THERE, he would not leave the family that loves him. His attention and mind will always be with you.
When we are healed in the world of spirit the love and compassion we have for each other is profound. He will help you and he will try to help with your suffering. The best thing is to keep loving him, know he still exists and is becoming healed.
He will see how you honor him with the way you choose to live your life. He can see into your heart. On your birthday make sure you blow out a candle and make a wish for his health and happiness where he is now, include him in the celebration. We the living are under the impression that we have lost the deceased but the deceased are never under the impression that they have lost us.
Keep loving him and thinking the best thoughts you can about him, if he died of cancer remember him when he was well, for example. I am happy to write to you, and I am honored that you reached out to me. I have lost someone more dear than my own life to me so I have had to learn these things first hand, otherwise I would not be able to tell you about them.
Be kind to yourself and the others who are missing him so very much now. Make a place with his photo and light candles for him, get an ornament for your tree if that is what you celebrate and add one every year to show him he is still a part of your Christmas. Someone told me about a message box they had and they would write small thoughts to the deceased loved one and believe that they knew what the notes said. Make rituals that honor his part in your life, and try to speak of your Dad in the present, know he is there, he sees all of you and feels your love for him.

By: Jaylee Neal

Jaylee Neal — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 01:48:30 +0000

Dear Gretchen,
I’m only seventeen years old my dad had recentley passed on the 6th of december this year and it’s been a week and a half already. I’ve only ever dreamed about my dad twice apart of me whishes i could find out if he has gone into the light, My mum and brother also wish the the same if i could only ever find out if he’s passed into the light and that he’s happy would make me happy.. I still miss him to this day i keep writing on his facebook page. I feel saddened that im about to be eigteen on the 27th of dec and he’s not going to be there.. how do i know if he’s crossed over.

By: Gretchen

Gretchen — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 14:08:02 +0000

Dear Sanny,
I am so sorry that you are in the journey that is so difficult here. Feel your husband’s love, it will become more pure as he is healing. He will become your best guide and ally then greet you when you transition.
Someone is a recent reading said an interesting thing about dreaming. The deceased said to my living client that it was too soon for them to dream together as the chemicals of grief were too present in the brain (which is not the same as your mind). It was these chemicals caused by grief that would turn any dream into more of a nightmare. In other words the chemicals of stress would not allow the mind dream to translate well into the conscious dream. This is not to say they are not together in some aspect of mind, just not in the remember-able type of dream that many are waiting for. I have never remembered a dream with my mother, but I have touched her energy with my mind and she has touched my ind with her energy. This is not the same thing as dreaming. The people close to you do not have the stress chemicals and so he can convey the message to you easily through them. It is an irony that when we most want this kind of connection our physicality can prevent it.
So think of your mind energy touching and merging with his, and accept the gifts he sends you, Don’t worry about validation, that will come and you will be absolutely sure within yourself that he is communicating with you.
my best wishes,
Gretchen

By: Sanny

Sanny — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 14:07:01 +0000

I lost my beloved husband to heart attack more than six months ago. I am told that I am “psychically open” as I felt heaviness right after he died. He came in my dream on the 13th day of passing where he sat at the edge of my bed. He was in shadow as it was 5 AM in the winter and told me that he was gone and I should lead my life. I woke up and was upset that he didn’t tell me he loved me. Then a month later I had pranic healing session and he came through to me. He said he loved me and lot of things that just made me happy. Prior to that I used to get electric interference in my home. I went through a cleansing process to help him transition. I have NEVER dreamed about him but three people close to me said that he came in their dreams and was smiling and laughing…so looked happy. I was told that our love was so selfless, pure and deep that he and I will continue to remain connected and keep communicating with each other. What do you think?

By: Gretchen

Gretchen — Thu, 05 May 2011 01:51:42 +0000

Dear Shirley,
I don’t doubt that your husband covered your feet with his robe. What a beautiful gesture of love. I know several stories of our loved ones from the world of spirit moving things. Sometimes the things they move were not there when people looked, then they appear in the place where people had already looked over and over.
It takes a lot of focused energy to move something in physical for the deceased. This tells me your husband has a lot of concentration and the ability to gather energy from his vantage point. He must be incredibly present in your life, even in his spirit form.
Your story is so touching, I imagine he must have been a loving thoughtful person in life to be such a dear from the world of spirit. Thank you so much for sharing this with me.
My heart goes out to you that you are continuing your journey in life without him, but we are all on different learning paths so even in your pain try to see some of the beauty of life in order to honor your husband. I’m sure you no longer have any fear of death, knowing he will be there the moment you are ready to step out of your physical body.
best wishes,
Gretchen