Comments on: Experiences with beloved deceased

By: Gretchen

Gretchen — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 00:43:14 +0000

Dear P,
I commend you on your journey in this lifetime, loving and being a caregiver and hanging in with a very hard and very sad process, wow, I am awed. I know that place of no regrets that is a place of peace within our grief.
Anyway I feel your dreams are your own thoughts. Many dreams we have are our own processing of the trauma of his death.
A wonderful thing happens with most of us when we transition into the world of spirit, we have the opportunity to heal completely from life’s problems and misconceptions. No doubt your husband is healed and knows that love is the only thing that matters, unconditional love that offers freedom to those we love. If you have found love again in this life I am happy for you and I have never met a healed deceased person that did not want the best for their loved one here on earth. I can’t speak for him, but I know the perspective that the deceased come to and in all likelihood he would want only the best for you here.
best wishes,
Gretchen

By: Patty

Patty — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 20:24:57 +0000

Hi,
It’s been several yrs since the loss of my husband.He had been ill for many, many years and for the past couple of years I’ve been having reoccurring dreams.He comes to me as if he were only gone temporarily (staying at his moms) and never deceased. He died in my arms and knowing all he had gone through I knew I was always there for him and loved, cared for him unconditionally. I was at peace. However, during his illness, his family distanced themselved from us and didn’t take part in our lives. My husband once told me he would never want me to remarry. Recently, I’ve become involved with someone and I’m trying to figure out what these reoccuring dreams mean. I wake up crying and feeling guilty that I’m moving on. By the way, these dreams began before I was ever involved with my boyfriend. What are your thoughts?

By: Gretchen

Gretchen — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 14:46:08 +0000

Dear Betty,
I’m sorry for my delayed response, I have been traveling, and sad that people you loved have transitioned out of physical
Most deceased function well, as you may know from reading my book. However we are still as responsible for our self, responsible for our experience as we were in life.
Your husband’s communication to you that he is happy is a typical and frequent consolation that we are sometimes blessed with.
Your companion that you more recently lost may have been on a much different learning path than you are- we are all on different learning paths here. If your companion now, through the help of his guides, teachers and helpers, has regrets that he is trying to communicate to or through you that would also make sense. He may be wishing to clarify something, not necessarily with you, but about some action that he now has accumulated a karmic debt about. He may know that you are receptive to his communications, while the person that he harmed in his physical life is not receptive to him. The deceased try to reach through the living that are aware of them. So what he needs to talk about with you may or may not have to do with you.
I guess my question to you is how responsible do you feel toward your deceased companion? Ask to know, from your own guides or inner wisdom if this is something you wish or need to pursue for him or not. Be assured that he will work this out eventually, either between lives or in the next incarnation. You cannot spare him his karmic debt, but on the other hand this may be something you wish to do with a medium. I would try to sort out what might compel you to follow up on the companion with a medium might be unfinished grief work you may not have accomplished for your murdered husband versus spiritual responsibility you may feel for your companion. Actually you cannot take spiritual responsibility for anyone else, either living or dead, everyone has to be self responsible, but we do attempt to aid each other toward their own learning goal.
For me it really comes down to how you feel about connecting with the energy of your companion, try to feel within your heart if you want to connect with him or not.
please keep in touch and best wishes,
Gretchen

By: Betty

Betty — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 04:37:57 +0000

Hi Gretchen:
About 15 years ago my husband was murdered. I was shattered as we only were married for 2 years. After 3 years I had a dream and he told me to stop crying and that he was happy, having a good time.
3 months ago, I lost my companion of 4 years tragically. His death left a void in me and a lot of unanswered questions as our relationship was rocky to say the least in the the year preceding his death and upon his death many disturbing things came to ligth about his life in the past year. So far I had 3 dreams of him and he doesn’t look happy. In 2 of the dreams he is holding on to me and the recurrent conversation of those dreams are basically the same: he needs to talk to me, he needs to clarify some things.
I am lost to say the least. For the past 3 months I’ve been reading a lot about angels, conversation with the dead, Karma and reincarnation trying to make some sense out of everything that is happening but I still feel that I am not there yet.
Do you think that it was him talking to me in my dreams? Should I probe further to know what exactly he is trying to tell me? How would I go about knowing what he is trying to tell me?

By: Barbara

Barbara — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 02:04:54 +0000

Gretchen,
Thank you so much for such a thorough and also compassionate answer to my questions. Your answer has encouraged me to go on feeling and letting in what I have been experiencing and what I have been believing is really there and happening around me in ways that are unexpected but that keep on unfolding in an amazing way. It also gives me the comfort of knowing that this interactive experience with spirit can keep on adding a whole new loving dimension to my life- that things are not over- just different than before. Thank you again. Much loving energy being sent your way.