Comments on: Good News and Bad news http://www.howspiritworks.com/archives/53 “If you’re never going to die, you don’t need this book” Tue, 31 Aug 2010 03:14:35 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Gretchen http://www.howspiritworks.com/archives/53/comment-page-1#comment-88 Gretchen Sun, 31 Jan 2010 01:27:59 +0000 http://www.howspiritworks.com/archives/53#comment-88 Dear Nancy, My heart goes out to you in your journey of grief. I'm sure your beloved husband will be eternally grateful for your loving support during his illness and as he transitioned out of physical. Recently I heard death described as a change of focus, we are still focused here, your husband has a different focus and your communication with him happens when you change your focus to connect with his. For him to be so conscious immediately after death is pretty special. For you to know it was his kiss is even more special. We are with our deceased loved ones in dream state and we are fortunate to remember that. Of course he is having the best day of his life now, every day. Some people don't connect with the energy of their loved one as they are so different than when we last saw them. Isn't it wonderful to know his love for you and your family is so present and close. It doesn't make it easier, but it is a better thought than feeling completely lost and alone. I will send a sample of my little monthly letters, then if you want to keep receiving them just let me know. I pray you keep finding the courage to do all the little necessary things in life and thanks for your kind words about my book. Gretchen Vogel Choices Publishing Dear Nancy,
My heart goes out to you in your journey of grief. I’m sure your beloved husband will be eternally grateful for your loving support during his illness and as he transitioned out of physical. Recently I heard death described as a change of focus, we are still focused here, your husband has a different focus and your communication with him happens when you change your focus to connect with his. For him to be so conscious immediately after death is pretty special. For you to know it was his kiss is even more special. We are with our deceased loved ones in dream state and we are fortunate to remember that. Of course he is having the best day of his life now, every day. Some people don’t connect with the energy of their loved one as they are so different than when we last saw them. Isn’t it wonderful to know his love for you and your family is so present and close. It doesn’t make it easier, but it is a better thought than feeling completely lost and alone.
I will send a sample of my little monthly letters, then if you want to keep receiving them just let me know.
I pray you keep finding the courage to do all the little necessary things in life and thanks for your kind words about my book.
Gretchen Vogel
Choices Publishing

]]> By: Nancy M http://www.howspiritworks.com/archives/53/comment-page-1#comment-87 Nancy M Sat, 30 Jan 2010 13:42:02 +0000 http://www.howspiritworks.com/archives/53#comment-87 Gretchen, I just finish reading your book "Choices in the Afterlife", thank you for a wonderful reading experience. So many of my questions have been answered in reading your book. I like to think that I am not afraid to die, I feel that I am ready whenever my time will come. But since my husband's death I had several questions as to what he my be going through and what I had been going through in my grief process. He was ready to go, he even had told me when his condition was diagnosed that he would be dead in 5 years, well we had 6. His death experience was a good one, from my perspective. He asked for and was given permission to "go", most of his family were with him and had the chance to tell him goodbye and that they loved him. His last spoken words to me were "Help me, help me die". I sat with him and held his hand and told him over and over that it was ok, he was free, he could just let go, to let go of all that pain. I felt his presence later that day, I felt his kiss on my face, it felt as if he was kissing me just as I had kissed him that morning. We, my children and I, have had several dreams of my husband they all seem to have a smiliar message, my most profound dream was that I was standing outside next to a tree, and as I turned toward the tree I saw my husband, he looked to be about 30, dressed in his demin jacket and jeans, I moved toward him and he opened his arms to take me into a huge hug, in that dream I was finally able to cry. I fell that he is always there, just around the corner. Your book makes perfect scence to me, it rings so true. I look forward to reading more of your work. Thank You again. Nancy Gretchen, I just finish reading your book “Choices in the Afterlife”, thank you for a wonderful reading experience. So many of my questions have been answered in reading your book. I like to think that I am not afraid to die, I feel that I am ready whenever my time will come.
But since my husband’s death I had several questions as to what he my be going through and what I had been going through in my grief process. He was ready to go, he even had told me when his condition was diagnosed that he would be dead in 5 years, well we had 6. His death experience was a good one, from my perspective. He asked for and was given permission to “go”, most of his family were with him and had the chance to tell him goodbye and that they loved him. His last spoken words to me were “Help me, help me die”. I sat with him and held his hand and told him over and over that it was ok, he was free, he could just let go, to let go of all that pain. I felt his presence later that day, I felt his kiss on my face, it felt as if he was kissing me just as I had kissed him that morning. We, my children and I, have had several dreams of my husband they all seem to have a smiliar message, my most profound dream was that I was standing outside next to a tree, and as I turned toward the tree I saw my husband, he looked to be about 30, dressed in his demin jacket and jeans, I moved toward him and he opened his arms to take me into a huge hug, in that dream I was finally able to cry. I fell that he is always there, just around the corner.

Your book makes perfect scence to me, it rings so true. I look forward to reading more of your work.
Thank You again.
Nancy

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